Been laying in bed for a while, unable to get up and face the grind?
Feeling a bit “dead inside?”
Driving yourself mad thinking about all the things you could be doing instead of laying there depressed, “searching for the energy?”
Biologists have a list of criteria they use to characterize whether or not something is a living thing.
Can it reproduce? Does it maintain homeostasis? Does it have a metabolism? Etc.
As a fan of simplicity I like the characteristic: “Is it irritable?”
Can you piss it off? Will it react to stimuli?
Things that are alive can be irritated. They’ll react and adapt.
When you’re faced with a problem you can do one of two things:
1. Do nothing: Stagnate, decline, feel all the emotion and do nothing as you further punish yourself and your brain physically dies in a process called synaptic pruning. If you don’t use it, you lose it. Continue this path and it’ll worsen.
“If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice” – Neil Peart
2. Take Action: Be impulsive, be calculating, be anything, just do something. If you make a mistake you can learn from it, if it goes well you’ll grow and prosper. Either way you’re experiencing psychological growth. This is the very essence of what it means to be ALIVE!
The first law of psychology is “You get more of what you reinforce.” We’re a product of our habits. Generally speaking, are you in the habit of growing or declining?
If you’re not actively living, you are passively dying – Ori Hofmekler
Too many people check out when they clock in at work. Most people I meet aren’t really there. When they do get perked up it’s usually about something like the new body work on their Camaro or the new DLC that came out on the Xbox Marketplace.
Most people aren’t engaged in something they can get good at over a lifetime. Most people are drifters. Most people are dead inside. I became one and I didn’t snap out of it for months.
I went through a period of time moonlighting at Domino’s where I would wake up around 4pm, deliver all night until closing time, do dishes until 4 or 5am, and then lie in bed trying to calm my racing thoughts before passing out.
I worked three 12’s and two 10’s every week so I didn’t see much of the sun for about 3 months and you can bet I felt “dead inside” too.
Extreme depression, the worst OCD symptoms I’ve ever had, and a complete disregard for my personal health all to chase after a paycheck that wasn’t worth it. My life decayed to the point that I almost shot myself.
When I did get anything done it required massive amounts of caffeine to accomplish; 14 cups of coffee in a day didn’t seem like a problem at all, I was getting things done for once!
I found myself affirming “I’m surprised I survived January” like a little bitch. Screw that noise.
I made some relatively simple changes with enormous outcomes that in hindsight are so obvious it hurts, and before I knew it my body chemistry was back to normal and I had those amazing qualities healthy people call drive & ambition once again. I’m definitely a fan.
If you’re feeling “dead inside” while running as fast as you can to stay in the same place, it’s time to issue some walking papers and stretch for something.
“That’s so much easier said than done!”
Your point? What’s your alternative? It’s definitely not easy, but “living” in your current headspace isn’t either. What my approach has yours doesn’t is: it’s worth it.
Flip the crazy switch and use your pain to drive you.
Or just try something new. Start small, baby steps can lead to great journeys, you’ve got to start though. Instead of looking at how bad things are, look at your options. Being resourceful is way more fun than being a victim.
Some of you might be truly depressed, no matter who you are you should seek small victories and keep hitting them until it’s just “what you do.”
Living depressed in a routine isn’t growing. It sure as hell isn’t living.
You expand the vistas of your mind by pushing the boundaries of it, not aimlessly following along the course you’ve made for yourself until you can do it on autopilot while you gain 5lbs per year.
Growth isn’t comfortable, growth involves being irritated slightly. My body and mind feel 100x better after a session at the gym or a cold shower.
It’s not comfortable waking up early. It’s painful in a way. Every time I get up early and hike Mt. Olympus with a friend it’s always worth it to turn around and look down at the amazing view knowing that I could be laying in bed still, completely asleep to the possibility of the majestic sight I’m experiencing.
Wake up, friend.
You have consciousness. You can choose what you grow towards. A tree will grow towards the sun. Rocks on the other hand, just sit there.
Are you alive? Or are you sinking like a rock?